“You must be one of those saints,” my aunt said to me. Maybe she said it because I was calmly disciplining my toddler. Maybe because I am pregnant with my sixth child. Or because she only has one child that is currently battling some adult-sized demons.
In any case, I just stared at her for a minute because SHE. IS. MY. AUNT. I mean, this woman has known me at my worst. First, as a snotty toddler, then as a back-talking kid and finally as a drug-addicted teenager. What was she thinking? Saint? Not me.
“I talk sweetly when I’m angry because it elicits fewer tantrums,” I finally reply. I try to convey that I’m just like any other mom – taking the road of least resistance. But I can tell she’s not buying it.
I think that’s how most parents view other parents. They think they are doing it all wrong and those “saints” have it all together. I used to think the same thing! Over time I have learned that most of parenthood is finding what works for your family.
You should never call another mom a saint, because it undermines your value as a parent.
Parenting isn’t a uniformed event.
We were never meant to look exactly like the family next door. Our parenting styles are unique.
We learn from those who have gone before us, but even if we perfectly mimic their ways – the results will be different.
I encourage new parents to glean wisdom from others, but to be empowered to find their own way in this arduous journey called parenthood.
You will enjoy the fruit of your labor. How joyful and prosperous you will be! Psalm 128:2
God wants you to focus your efforts on being the best parent you can be. One day you’ll reap the rewards of being the parent HE created you to be…and that’s enough.